Mother checks 43 years old son’s genitals

THE Matero Local court has heard how a Lusaka mother would inspect her married son’s private parts when he suffered a stroke to make sure he was not being intimate with his wife.
Olipa Sakala said her husband’s relatives including his mother and aunties could inspect his private parts each day and forbade her from cleaning him as he is paralysed from waist down.
Sakala, 28, of Chibolya township told senior court magistrate Lewis Mumba that his relatives also ordered her not to wash his clothes and underwear or change his beddings.
This was in a case in which Sakala was dragged to court for divorce by her husband Gabriel Njovu, 43.
“When he suffered a stroke, he was also discovered to have a sexually transmitted infection. My in-laws as a way of preventing me from being intimate with my husband, started bathing him and inspecting his manhood to make sure we are not having sexual relations when they are away.
It made me uncomfortable because their relative is a married man, an adult with a wife to care for him. No mother should do that for her married son,” she said.
Sakala said the relatives would take over the running of the house claiming she only married him for his money.
“I love him but his relatives have contributed to our marital problems,” she said.
But Njovu, a police officer of Emmasdale township told the court that Sakala abandoned him when he suffered a stroke four months ago.
Njovu who described Sakala as an irresponsible wife said he suffered to provide for her. The two who got married in 2011 have no children together. He told the court that bride price was paid.
He said when his health started failing him; he decided to give Sakala money to start a business to help provide for the family.
“I thought that it was going to ease our financial problems, but it was a begining to more marital woes. She left and sent me a text message that she will never sacrifice and suffer for a paralysed man like me,” he said.
He told the court that he is suspicious of his wife’s movements adding he would not be surprised she was having an affair.
“She torments me and I think I have had enough especially in my condition. I just want the court to dissolve our marriage so we can go our separate ways,” he complained.
The court granted divorce and ordered Njovu to pay Sakala K4,000 as compensation with an initial payment of K500 February month-end to be followed by monthly instalments of K300.